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Amateur photographer seeking beauty in both the memorable and the mundane. Sharing pictures, stories and meditations from here and there.

A woman named Sue…and other thoughts

Today’s prompt: Who is someone who inspires you and why? Really hasn’t inspired me.

But I had a few thoughts related to the prompt that aren’t really a response to it.

First: You can choose who you admire.

My mom is not an inspiration. She has some emotional health disorders that have been scarring. Including some form of narcissism. She acted and coached me to believe that she was some sort of example to live up to. Someone to listen to and admire.

When I was in my mid 30s I realized that, despite my coaching, I didn’t really admire my mom’s life choices. I discovered this because I realized that I was working with a woman named Sue who had had a number of parallel early life experiences with mom. But had chosen to move on; getting a degree in engineering and moving on with her life. Mom was last I knew still playing the blame game. Everything was always someone else’s fault.

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Where do I even start?

Today’s prompt is “what is something you wish you knew how to do?”

I could go with I wish I knew how to…read social situations and know how to respond.

I could go with I wish I knew how to…keep the house clean with no effort.

I could go with I wish I knew how to…communicate in a meaningful way to the people tearing our nation apart to help them see that they are being manipulated into working against their own interests.

I could go with a lot of things.

But right now I am trying to learn languages. So: I wish I knew how to learn and retain spoken language easily.

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In and out of my comfort zone

Sometimes just walking into the room is outside my comfort zone. I have some sort of social anxiety disorder. Sometimes just going out to walk the dogs feels a bit much.

When one’s comfort zone is small the issue isn’t whether to step out, you have to to function. The issue is how to create the habits and mechanisms to make stepping out as close to the edge of my comfort zone as it can be.

The most recent time I had a dramatic stepping out was my trip to France in September. But it wasn’t getting on the plane during a pandemic. I wore KN95 mask and a face shield. No one really expects you to be outgoing in the airport or on planes. It wasn’t figuring out the logistics of getting around in Paris. It was when I walked up to the boat for my river cruise alone.

My ship awaits.
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Bright ending

The header is the last on card for the year 2021. I added the one below, next to last on card, same flower from a different angle. It shows more of the full glory.

Red and white variegated amaryllis is the star of y Christmas window display.
Next to last on card.

This amaryllis is the dominant subject of my photography since it started to emerge in the middle of December. It’s the only living Christmas decoration for this year, and I find its red and white stripes cheerful, especially on glum days.

For Bushboy’s Last on Card and Cee’s Flower of the Day.

Why do you go away? So that you can come back*

Today’s Bloganuary prompt is “What is a road trip you would love to take? (I skipped yesterday’s because I have absolutely no clue what advice I’d give to my teenage self. Way too long ago.)

Driving trips are not my favorite thing

I am not a big fan of road trips. Things go by too fast.

I am better now about pulling over, but I still feel like I miss too much. For some reason, a mix of my personality and up-bringing make it hard for me to pull over easily. Driving takes too much of my attention to let me see things well and I don’t react fast enough to opportunity. I’m often well past before I decide I want to see something better.

But I digress…

There’s no place like home

There are many places to see and things to do in the world. I’ve been blessed to do, perhaps, more than my fair share. And there are more places I’d like to go, but my only recurring road trip ambition is to explore all the nooks and crannies of my home state: Washington.

Through the years I’ve made some progress.

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One-to-Three Photo Processing Challenge

One-to-three is a monthly photo processing challenge on my other web site, theSquirrelChase.com. I’d love to have you join in: The challenge is simple: take one photo and get creative with it by processing it three different ways. Then share the results, with a link to this month’s post. I’ll do a start up post on the first of each month, including a round up of entries from the preceding month, so we can all share in the creativity and fun.

Here’s my January 2022 contribution:

More of my variegated amaryllis. I may try to turn this into a Christmas card for next year so I’ve been trying out lots of ideas. Thing is, I like the flower so much that it always looks good to me, no matter what I do to it. Do you ever have that problem?

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Pull up a Seat Photo Challenge 2021-Week 53

A PHOTO CHALLENGE OF PLACES WE SIT…OR MIGHT SIT…OR ART ABOUT SITTING

Welcome to week 53 of the Pull up a Seat Challenge in 2021. The last one this year.

Best wishes to everyone for a healthy and happy 2022!

Take a load off and share a favorite perch by linking your post to this one, either with a comment or ping-back. For more detailed directions go to Pull Up a Seat page.

It is always fun to see the variety of ideas this theme evokes.

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